Weddings are all about celebrating love, but managing the guest list can sometimes be a challenge, especially when it comes to plus ones and children. Deciding who gets a plus one and whether kids are invited requires careful thought and clear communication. Here’s a guide to help you navigate these tricky decisions gracefully!
Plus-Ones: Who Gets an Invite?
A plus-one can make or break a guest’s experience, but that doesn’t mean you have to give everyone the option. Here’s a general guideline to consider:
✅ Married, Engaged, or Cohabitating Couples – If a guest is in a committed relationship, it’s courteous to extend an invite to their partner
.✅ Long-Term or Serious Relationships – If a guest has been dating someone for a significant period, it’s polite to include their partner.
✅ Bridal Party Members – It’s customary to allow your wedding party to bring a date, especially if they are traveling for your wedding.
❌ Casual Dating or Single Guests – If your guest isn’t in a serious relationship, it’s acceptable to invite them solo.
How to Address Invitations
To avoid confusion, address invitations clearly. For example:
With a plus-one: "Sarah Johnson and Guest"
Without a plus-one: "Sarah Johnson" (No mention of "and Guest")
If someone asks to bring a plus-one and you don’t have the space, politely explain that you’re keeping the guest list intimate due to venue capacity or budget.
Kids at Weddings: To Invite or Not to Invite?
Deciding whether to have kids at your wedding depends on the atmosphere you envision. Here are your options:
💍 Adults-Only Wedding – A formal affair without children can create a more relaxed experience for your guests. If going this route, make it clear on your invitation (e.g., "We love your little ones, but this will be an adults-only celebration!")
💍 Kids Welcome – If you want a family-friendly wedding, consider having kid-friendly meals, activities, or even a designated play area.
💍 Close Family Only – Some couples opt to invite only immediate family members' children, which allows them to include loved ones while keeping the guest count manageable.
Communicating Your Decision
On invitations: "We kindly request an adults-only celebration."
Word-of-mouth: Have close family members spread the message in a polite way.
Offer alternatives: Suggest babysitting services or kid-friendly accommodations nearby.
The key to handling plus-ones and kids at weddings is clarity and kindness. Be upfront about your choices, communicate them clearly, and stand firm in your decisions. Your wedding should reflect your vision, and those who truly support you will understand.
At Capital Occasions, we know how tricky guest list decisions can be, and we're here to help guide you through every step of the planning process. Whether you're hosting an intimate adults-only gathering or a lively family-friendly celebration, we’ll make sure every detail aligns with your vision!
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